The Prophet (saw) used to give a particular portion of his guidance towards the youth. The Prophet (saw) said to Ibn ‘Abbaas:
“O young boy, verily I am going to teach you some words (of advice): preserve Allaah and He will preserve you. Preserve Allaah and you will find him in front of you. If you ask for something, then ask Allaah. If you seek assistance then seek assistance of Allaah.” [Tirmidhee, Ahmad amongst others]
In another hadeeth, he (saw) said to Mu’aadh Ibn Jabal while he was riding behind him on his donkey:
“O Mu’aadh, do you know the rights of Allaah on the servant and the servant’s rights on Allaah?” [Bukhaaree & Muslim]
In another hadeeth the Prophet (saw) said to ‘Umar Ibn Salamah, and he used to teach him while he was a young boy. When ‘Umar laid his hand on the plate, the Prophet (saw) grabbed his hand and said:
“O lad, say the name of Allaah, eat with your right hand, and eat from that which is closer to you.“
… The religion places great emphasis concerning the upbringing of the youth because the boys will be the men of the future. They are the ones who will succeed their fathers, inherit from them and establish their role in life.
[Taken from “Min Mushkilaat Ash-Shabaab Wa Kayfa ‘Aaleejuha Islaam” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, Pp 16-17]
It is said that a woman wrote the following poem from al-Baahah Mountain. It was written because she was forbidden from marriage until she became so old that few were interested in marrying her. She said:
When my fingertips wrote my letter, tears were flowing from my eyes.
I sent it to my affluent father who embraced me with protection and affection.
I sent it, and it contained that which I could not say; but what my heart and soul desires.
I sent it and tears fell upon its ink and I wrote it from a puzzling situation.
I kept it hidden from the most important one, but it did not prevent me from breaking from this concealment.
When I think of my drowning indeed my gray hair ignites as if my gray hair was luminous.
O you who are put off due to my old age.
Indeed, years of sadness have already passed.
When I see children, my tears flow, my heart burns from the fire of my deprivation.
When I see another woman living with her husband and her child sleeping in the nursery.
(1) Knowledge of and love for Allah and His Deen (Islam):
This is one of the most precious and enduring gifts you can pass down to your daughter, one that will benefit her in this life and the next.
(2) Memorization of the Quran:
No matter how little you have memorized yourself, push your daughter to memorize as much she can. Encourage her and help her to revise. It will stand her in good stead in her life and will be a source of reward for you after your death as well.
(3) A good example of Muslim womanhood:
Most girls look to their mothers for Guidance. Embody the characteristics of a strong, faithful Muslimah and she will be inspired to follow your example.
(4) A sense of self-worth and self-esteem:
Instill a sense of confidence in your child by encouraging her skills, talents and personality to develop. Make her feel secure in her identity and show her that she is loved and appreciated. This will have a positive impact on her future relationships and how she interacts with the world.
(5) A sense of modesty:
Instill a love for Hijab in your daughter and encourage her to be modest, never boastful or conceited, in all areas of her life.
Due to Az-Zubayr’s deep love of martyrdom, he named his sons after martyred Companions.
Hishaam Ibn ‘Urwah narrated that his father said that Az-Zubayr said:
“Talhah named his sons after Prophets when he learned that there would be no Prophet after Muhammad (saw). But I named my children after martyrs, in the hope that they will attain martyrdom:
Abdullah after Abdullah Ibn Jahsh, Al-Mundhir after Al-Mundhir Ibn ‘Amr, ‘Urwah after ‘Urwah Ibn Mas’ood, Hamzah after Hamzah, Ja’far after Ja’far Ibn Abee Taalib, Mus’ab after Mus’ab Ibn ‘Umayr, ‘Ubaydah after ‘Ubaydah ibn al-Haarith, Khaalid after Khaalid Ibn Sa’eed and ‘Amr after ‘Amr Ibn Sa’eed Ibn Al-’Aas, who was killed at Yarmook.“
Another interesting something I found hidden in the world of the internet:
(Whether its true or not, Allaahu ‘alam, most probably a fabricated story, however an interesting read)
There was this young man about twenty years old named Jamal. Jamal was approached by a salesman, Adam, who offered Jamal one hundred thousand dollars (or dinars) for his mother’s heart.
Jamal, with dollar signs in his eyes and greed in his heart, took the offer to be literal and went home right away and with a dagger claimed the life of his mother and tore out her heart and hurriedly started back towards the marketplace to find the salesman. On his way to the marketplace, Jamal tripped on some pebbles and as he fell down he dropped his mother’s heart and it got all dirty with the dust from the ground. After he fell, a soft voice came from within the heart and said: “O my son, are you alright?”
Startled, Jamal realized what he had done and started crying. He cried so much that the tears from his eyes rolled down his cheeks and with those tears the dirt on the heart was wiped clean. Jamal, now desperate, wanted a way out of the major sin he had just committed.
He picked up his dagger and pulled it up and was about to take his own life. Suddenly, the same soft voice came out a second time from the heart. This time it stated: “O my son, do not kill me twice.”
This story definitely symbolizes a mother’s love for her child. The Quran and Sunnah show the importance of one’s parents.
[Presented and Translated by Mustafa George DeBerry]
Question: Is it permissible for a father to prevent his daughter from marriage for the purpose of completing her studies?
Answer: The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “If a person approaches you who is upright in his religion and possess good character, then marry him(to your daughter or the likes). If you don’t, there will be much corruption and evil throughout the Earth.”
Therefore, if a man approaches, and he has good religion and good character, if he is trustworthy etc, it is not permissible for the father to prevent the marriage from taking place. It is possible that the father makes an agreement with the man who is marrying his daughter, that she completes her studies.
This is because there is no doubt that in completing her studies is a benefit for the husband, the children, whether they are males or females, in the future, as well as benefit for the female and the Muslims as a whole.
If this female completes her studies, she can teach and benefit the Muslims in the future. I don’t think if the man has good character and religion, that he would want to prevent his wife from completing her studies.
Sisters with children should take turns taking care of each other’s children.
For example, 4 sisters (A, B, C, D) would like to attend the lesson, but all of them have children. They should divide the lectures daily.
Sister A takes all the kids for the first lesson while sisters B, C and D attend. Sister B takes the children for the second lesson while sisters A, C and D attend. If the sisters follow this method, inshaa Allaah, all will benefit.
And at night once all the children are asleep, all the sisters can gather and share the missed notes (and of course, adjustments can be made to this suggestion to suit specific needs).
[Taken from ‘Clear Advice For Benefiting From Islaamic Lectures’, Pp. 73-74]