Having Hayaa (Modesty) Even When Alone

Mu’aawiya ibn Haida said, when asking about the awrah of a man:

O Messenger of Allah, what about when one is alone?

The Prophet said:

Allah is more deserving of your modesty than are the people.” [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, Tirmidhee and others: Saheeh].

Aishah narrated that the Prophet (saw) said:

Every woman who removes her clothes other than in her house has torn down all veils of modesty between herself and Allaah.” [Tirmidhee, Abu Dawood and others: Saheeh]

Umm ad-dardaa narrated that the Prophet (saw) said:

By the One in whose hand is my soul, every woman who removes her clothes anywhere except the house of one of her mothers has torn down all that veils her before Ar-Rahman.” [Ahmad: Saheeh]

Advice To Muslim Women, By Shaykh Bin Baaz

Allaah says:

Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart there is a disease (of fornication) should be moved with desire. But rather speak in an honorable manner. And stay in your houses and do not openly display yourselves like that of the days of ignorance.” [Ahzaab: 32-33]

Shaykh Bin Baaz comments:

“In this ayah, Allaah forbids the wives of the noble Prophet, the Mothers of the Believers – who are from amongst the best and purest of women – from speaking softly to men, which means making the voice sound gentle and pleasant…

Allaah further commands the women to stay in their homes and forbids them from indecently exposing themselves as the women would do in the days of ignorance (jaahiliyyah)…

This is because of what is found in that form great mischief, overwhelming temptation and an incitement of male hearts towards embarking on the means of fornication.

So if it is the case that Allaah warned the Mothers of the Believers from these evil things, in spite of their uprightness, strong faith and pure nature, then this means that all women besides them take more precedence in this matter.

They are more deserving of being warned and forbidden, and they have more right that we fear for them the causes of fitnah.”

[Taken from “Four Essays On The Obligation Of Veiling”. Chapter: “The Dangers Of Tabarruj (Immoral Exposure)”, by Shaykh Bin Baaz, Pp. 11-12]

The Necessity To Educate The Youth, By Sh. Saalih Al-Fawzaan

The Prophet (saw) used to give a particular portion of his guidance towards the youth. The Prophet (saw) said to Ibn ‘Abbaas:

O young boy, verily I am going to teach you some words (of advice): preserve Allaah and He will preserve you. Preserve Allaah and you will find him in front of you. If you ask for something, then ask Allaah. If you seek assistance then seek assistance of Allaah.” [Tirmidhee, Ahmad amongst others]

In another hadeeth, he (saw) said to Mu’aadh Ibn Jabal while he was riding behind him on his donkey:

O Mu’aadh, do you know the rights of Allaah on the servant and the servant’s rights on Allaah?” [Bukhaaree & Muslim]

In another hadeeth the Prophet (saw) said to ‘Umar Ibn Salamah, and he used to teach him while he was a young boy. When ‘Umar laid his hand on the plate, the Prophet (saw) grabbed his hand and said:

O lad, say the name of Allaah, eat with your right hand, and eat from that which is closer to you.

… The religion places great emphasis concerning the upbringing of the youth because the boys will be the men of the future. They are the ones who will succeed their fathers, inherit from them and establish their role in life.

[Taken from “Min Mushkilaat Ash-Shabaab Wa Kayfa ‘Aaleejuha Islaam” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, Pp 16-17]

Women Being Lax In Their Hijaab Of The Speech

Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan:

“It is upon the woman who fears Allaah and the hereafter to stay away from what many of the women are doing today such as being lackadaisical with the hijaab and easy-going with wearing decorative garments when going outside and being lax with using perfume when going out of the house and intermingling with men and joking with them.

Allaah, the Most High, said to His Prophet’s wives:

Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart there is a disease (of fornication) should be moved with desire. But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

If a woman has a need to speak to a man that is not one of her mahaarim, she may speak to him, but with a casual tone that has no softness or gentleness in it, and not in a joking or laughing manner.

Rather her speech must be ordinary and in accordance with what necessity dictates – i.e. a question and an answer – as per the need only.

She must not speak in a tone that appears friendly, laughing or teasing, or in a mellow or beautiful voice, thus stirring the desire of the one who has a disease in his heart. This is based on Allaah’s saying:

But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

So the Muslim women of today must fear Allaah with respect to themselves and their societies.”

[Taken from “Four Essays On The Obligation Of Veiling”. Chapter: “Advice To Muslim Women” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, p. 72]

Six Narrations For Every Pious Wife

Narration 1)

The Prophet (saw) said: “It is not allowed for a woman to fast in the presence of her husband except with his permission except for Ramadhaan. And she may admit no one to his house except with his permission.” [Bukhaaree & others]

Narration 2)

The Prophet (saw) said: ”Whenever a man calls his wife to their bed but he refuses to come, letting him spend the night angry with her, she is cursed by the angels until morning.

In another narration: “… until she relents (i.e. goes to him).“ In yet another narration: “… until he forgives her.” [Bukhaaree, Muslim and others]

Narration 3)

The Prophet (saw) said: ”By the One in whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman has fulfilled her obligations to her Lord until she has fulfilled her obligations to her husband – even if he were to ask for herself when she is mounted in the saddle, she would not refuse his request.” [Ibn Maajah, Ahmad and others: Saheeh]

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Being Alone In A Car With A Non-Mahram Is Forbidden

Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Ibraheem Aal-Shaykh says:

“There is no doubt that a woman being alone with a taxi man in his taxi is unlawful. No doubt he will befriend her, which would lead to corruption especially if she is a very shy modest person. So how would it be if the driver is not too religious, immodest and has no shame?! So O Noble Sister in Islaam, fear Allaah The Exalted, and be not lax regarding such affairs such as the people are. What is important is what your deen tells you, not the custom of the people.”

[Majmoo’ Al-Fataawaa, 1/152]

This fatwaa is based on the words of the Prophet (saw):

It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman…

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]