Rape Statistics In The USA

American Rape Statistics:

In 1995, over 354,670 women were the victims of rape or sexual assault. (National Crime Victimization Survey. Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1996)

Over the last two years, more than 787,000 women were the victim of a rape or sexual assault. (National Crime Victimization Survey Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice, 1996)

The FBI estimates that 72 of every 100,000 females in the United States were raped last year. (Federal Bureau of Investigation, Uniform Crime Statistics, 1996)

Somewhere in America, a woman is raped every 2 mins. (US. Deprtment of Justice)

Silent Victims:

Approximately 28% of victims are rapd by husbands or boyfriends.

35% by acquaintances.

5% by other relatives. (Violence against Women, Bureau of Jusice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994)

According to the FBI estimates tat only 37% of all rapes are reported to the police.

According to the U.S. Justice Department, only 26% of all rapes are reported to the police/law enforcement officials.

Living In Fear:

According to the U.S. Department of Justice (All statistics are taken from: Violence against Women, Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Dept. of Justice, 1994)

25% of every rape takes place in a pubic area or in a parking garage.

31% of female victims reported that the offender was a stranger.

68% of rapes occur between the hours of 6pm and 6am.

At least 45% of rapists were under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

In 29% of rapes, the offender used a weapon.

In 7% of rapes, the victim sustained injuries other than rape injuries.

75% of female rape victims require medical care after the attack.

[Courtesy of paralumun.com]

Women Being Lax In Their Hijaab Of The Speech

Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan:

“It is upon the woman who fears Allaah and the hereafter to stay away from what many of the women are doing today such as being lackadaisical with the hijaab and easy-going with wearing decorative garments when going outside and being lax with using perfume when going out of the house and intermingling with men and joking with them.

Allaah, the Most High, said to His Prophet’s wives:

“Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart there is a disease (of fornication) should be moved with desire. But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

If a woman has a need to speak to a man that is not one of her mahaarim, she may speak to him, but with a casual tone that has no softness or gentleness in it, and not in a joking or laughing manner.

Rather her speech must be ordinary and in accordance with what necessity dictates – i.e. a question and an answer – as per the need only.

She must not speak in a tone that appears friendly, laughing or teasing, or in a mellow or beautiful voice, thus stirring the desire of the one who has a disease in his heart. This is based on Allaah’s saying:

“But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

So the Muslim women of today must fear Allaah with respect to themselves and their societies.”

[Taken from “Four Essays On The Obligation Of Veiling”. Chapter: “Advice To Muslim Women” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, p. 72]

Being Alone In A Car With A Non-Mahram Is Forbidden

Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Ibraheem Aal-Shaykh says:

“There is no doubt that a woman being alone with a taxi man in his taxi is unlawful. No doubt he will befriend her, which would lead to corruption especially if she is a very shy modest person. So how would it be if the driver is not too religious, immodest and has no shame?! So O Noble Sister in Islaam, fear Allaah The Exalted, and be not lax regarding such affairs such as the people are. What is important is what your deen tells you, not the custom of the people.”

[Majmoo’ Al-Fataawaa, 1/152]

This fatwaa is based on the words of the Prophet (saw):

“It is not permissible for a man to be alone with a woman…“

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Tabarruj – Women Exposing Themselves And Causing Fitnah

Ibn Jawzi said:

“I believe that coming out of her house and roaming about the streets in itself is sufficient to cause trouble, let alone exhibiting her beauty and her body.”

[Ahkaam’un Nisa]

As the Prophet (saw) said:

“The women is object of concealment, when she leaves the house, Shaytaan (the Devil) beautifies her.”

[Tirmidhi, and it is Saheeh]

The fitnah of women is indeed great, as the Prophet (saw) said:

“I am not leaving behind me in my ummah any fitnah that is more harmful for men than women.”

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Likewise he (saw) said in explaining to women why they would be the majority of the inhabitants of Hell:

“…a good man could be lead astray by any one of you…“

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]

The Dangers Of Women In The Field Of Business, Ibn Katheer

In his tafseer of soorah 11, verse 114, the aayah of which reads:

“And perform the Salat at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night [i.e. the five compulsory prayers]. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (i.e. small sins).”

Ibn Katheer mentions a very interesting story:

Imam Ahmad recorded that Ibn ‘Abbas said that a man came to ‘Umar and said that a woman came to do business with him.

During the course of their business, he took her into his place and did everything with her except the actual act of sexual intercourse.

‘Umar said, “Woe unto you! She probably was a woman whose husband is away (fighting) in the path of Allah.’‘

The man said, “Of course she was.“

‘Umar then said, “Go to Abu Bakr and ask him about this.“

The man went to Abu Bakr and asked him about the matter. Abu Bakr said, “She probably was a woman whose husband is away (fighting) in the path of Allah,” just as ‘Umar had said.

Then he went to the Prophet and told him the same story. The Prophet said;

“She probably was a woman whose husband is away (fighting) in the path of Allah.“

Then a verse of Qur’an was revealed,

“And perform the Salah, at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds.” [11:114]

The man then said, “O Messenger of Allah! Is this verse only for me, or does it apply to all of the people in general?“

O Sisters, Your Brother-In-Law Is Nothing But Death!

The Hadeeth:

A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said:

“Beware of entering upon women.“

One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?“

He said: “The brother-in-law is death!“

[Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]

Commentry By An-Nawawee:

An-Nawawee, may Allaah have mercy on him, said:

This hadeeth refers to all the relatives of the husband apart from his father and sons, who are mahrams for the wife and she is allowed to be alone with them; they are not described as “death.” It refers to the brother, nephew, uncle, cousin and other relatives of the husband whom she would be permitted to marry if she were not already married.

Because people customarily treat this matter so lightly, and a man may sit alone with his brother’s wife, the brother-in-law is likened to death, and he is the foremost among non-mahram men who should be prevented from doing so.

Most Of Those Who Will Enter Hell Will Be Women

Most of Hell’s inhabitants are women

In the khutbah given during the solar eclipse, the Prophet (saw) said;

“I saw hell and I saw that most of its dwellers/inhabitants were women.” [Bukhaaree & Muslim, via Ibn ‘Abbaas]

Most of Hell’s inhabitants are women! (Another narration)

The Prophet (saw) mentioned;

“I stood by the gate of Hell and saw that most of those who entered (it) were women.” [Bukhaaree & Muslim, via Usaamah Ibn Zayd]

Because they (women) are ungrateful to their husbands

The prophet (aw) said;

“O women, give in charity, for I have seen that you form the majority of the people of Hell.”

They asked, “Why is that, O Messenger of Allaah?”

He (saw) answered, “Because you curse too much and are ungrateful for the good treatment (done to you by your husbands).” [Bukhaaree & Muslim, via Abu Sa’eed al-Khudree]

In another narration

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.”

They asked, “Why, O Messenger of Allaah?”

He (saw) said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).”

It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allaah?”

He (saw) said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’”

[Bukhaaree (#1052), via ‘Abdullaah ibn ‘Abbaas]

A Muslimah And Her Home

The Prophet (Sallallaahu aayhi wa sallam) said “The deen is naseehah (Sincere advice).” [Muslim, Abu Dawud & Nisa’e] …and this is simply some naseeha.

A woman is closest to Allaah when she is in her home.

Proof:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Woman is ‘awrah, and if she goes out, the shaytaan raises his hopes (of misguiding her). She is never closer to Allaah than when she stays in her house.” [Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan and Ibn Khuzaymah; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Shaheehah, no. 2688]

Why? Because she is a fitna.

Proof:

The Prophet (Saw) said, “I did not leave any fitna more harmful than the fitna of women upon men.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

Even in her home, she must not be alone with a non-mahram.

Proof:

Umar (ra) reported that the Prophet said, “A man shall never keep alone with a woman except that the third between them is the Shayton.” [Tirmidhi]

Victims of Free Mixing. True stories

Lost hope

Umm Muhammad, a mature woman over the age of 40, tells her story.

I lived a life of modest means with my husband. There was never any closeness and harmony, and my husband did not have the kind of strong personality that a woman would hope for, but his good nature made me overlook the fact that I was the one who was responsible for most of the decision making in the family.

My husband often used to mention the name of his friend and business partner, and he would talk about him in my presence, and I often used to meet with him in his office which was originally part of our apartment. This went on for many years, until circumstances led to us exchanging visits with this person and his family. These family visits were repeated and because of his close friendship with my husband, we did not notice how the number of visits increased and how many hours a single visit would last. He often used to come on his own to sit with us, me and my husband, for long visits. My husband’s trust in him knew no bounds, and as days passed I got to know this person very well, and saw how wonderful and decent he was. I began to feel a strong attraction towards this man, and at the same time I began to sense that the feeling was mutual.

Things took a strange turn after that, when I realized that this man was the kind of person I had always dreamed about. Why had he come along now, after all these years? The more this man’s status increased in my eyes, the more my husband’s status diminished. It was as if I had needed to see the beauty of his character in order to discover how ugly my husband’s character was.

The matter between this person and myself did not go beyond these persistent thoughts which were occupying my mind night and day. Neither he nor I ever voiced what we felt in our hearts… until today. Yet despite that my life is over and my husband is little more than a weak man with no self-esteem. I hate him and I do not know how all this hatred towards him started to boil over. I wonder how I put up with him all these years, bearing all these burdens by myself, facing life’s problems on my own.

Women Are ‘Awrah – Explained

‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytân seeks her out and says [to her], “You will not pass by anyone except that you will impress/please him.”

A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

[Al-Tabarânî. Graded sahîh by Shaykh Al-Albânî in Sahîh Al-Targhîbi wa Al-Tarhîb Vol. 1 p84]

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