A mother asked her family doctor; “Why don’t women of this generation find enough milk to breast-feed their children?“
The doctor remained silent for moment, and then said; “Imagine cows that are in the field that are constantly driven at high speeds. Each night, when they return to the barnyard, they will not be able to give forth milk. Madame, such is the state of mothers today!“
Moral Of The Story:
yes, such is the state of mothers today. A mother in these times leaves home in the morning just as men do, striving with all their strength, preserving through the heat of the sun or through the cold of the winter, toiling – either of her own accord or under coercion, because at the end of the day (or month) she needs her paycheck.
How will the woman just described be able to find milk in her breasts in order to suckle her babies? Furthermore, how can she find time to look after her children? To bestow upon them her love? To give them her full attention?
However, before we begin, some might question whether we as Muslims are allowed to benefit from Western sources regarding these topics (of intimacy and love). The response is that our religion encourages us to take wisdom from all peoples and cultures. The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said, “Wisdom is the lost item of the believer – wherever he finds it, he takes it.” [Tirmidhee, Ibn Maajah]
Just as we take from all societies their knowledge of medicine, engineering, and chemistry, so too there is no problem in taking good and beneficial knowledge regarding intimacy from different cultures as well. In fact, even our Prophet salla Allahu alahyi wa sallam did so. He said, “I was about to forbid you from having intercourse with your wives while they are breastfeeding children, but I saw that the Romans and Persians did that and it did not harm their children” [Reported by al-Bukhari].
Therefore, the fact that the Romans and Persians engaged in intimacy while the mother was breastfeeding, and it did not harm the child, was used by our Prophet to allow intercourse during this time.