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Women Being Lax In Their Hijaab Of The Speech

Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan:

“It is upon the woman who fears Allaah and the hereafter to stay away from what many of the women are doing today such as being lackadaisical with the hijaab and easy-going with wearing decorative garments when going outside and being lax with using perfume when going out of the house and intermingling with men and joking with them.

Allaah, the Most High, said to His Prophet’s wives:

Then do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart there is a disease (of fornication) should be moved with desire. But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

If a woman has a need to speak to a man that is not one of her mahaarim, she may speak to him, but with a casual tone that has no softness or gentleness in it, and not in a joking or laughing manner.

Rather her speech must be ordinary and in accordance with what necessity dictates – i.e. a question and an answer – as per the need only.

She must not speak in a tone that appears friendly, laughing or teasing, or in a mellow or beautiful voice, thus stirring the desire of the one who has a disease in his heart. This is based on Allaah’s saying:

But rather speak in an honorable manner.” [Ahzaab: 32]

So the Muslim women of today must fear Allaah with respect to themselves and their societies.”

[Taken from “Four Essays On The Obligation Of Veiling”. Chapter: “Advice To Muslim Women” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan, p. 72]

Tabarruj – Women Exposing Themselves And Causing Fitnah

Ibn Jawzi said:

“I believe that coming out of her house and roaming about the streets in itself is sufficient to cause trouble, let alone exhibiting her beauty and her body.”

[Ahkaam’un Nisa]

As the Prophet (saw) said:

“The women is object of concealment, when she leaves the house, Shaytaan (the Devil) beautifies her.”

[Tirmidhi, and it is Saheeh]

The fitnah of women is indeed great, as the Prophet (saw) said:

“I am not leaving behind me in my ummah any fitnah that is more harmful for men than women.”

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Likewise he (saw) said in explaining to women why they would be the majority of the inhabitants of Hell:

“…a good man could be lead astray by any one of you…“

[Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Why Is It People Judge Muslim Women Differently

Just a few things to think about:

Why is it when a woman serves her boss at work she is honored, but when she serves her husband (her closest companion in life) it is considered slavery?

Why is it when a woman teaches other kids at school, she is great and is needed to produce an educated society, but when she stays at home to teach her kids and raises them, she is not so great, and should do something more productive in life than just lay eggs and raise kids?!!!

Why is it when a woman works as a chef and serves food for other people, she is praised, or is not looked down upon, but when she stays at home and cooks for her family, she is oppressed or backwards?

Why is it when a woman works at a dry cleaner, cleaning other peoples clothes, she is doing fine, she is working to earn money, nothing wrong with that, but when she washes her husband’s and childrens clothes, she is suffering and needs to be saved?!

Why is it when a woman works in an office outside of her home, she is a great woman, but if she works in an office inside of her home, she is not so great, and the only difference is that the second is at home ?

Why is it when a woman stays at home to serve her family she is a slave that needs to be freed from her prison, is oppressed, unproductive, backwards, and needs to get a life, while the woman who serves other people outside of her home, is a great and magnificent woman, she is a free woman, an equal to man, and has a bright future.

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A Wife Should Not Let Anyone Enter Her Husband’s Home Except With His Permission

Question:

When should a husband or wife allow or not allow others ‘mahrams or non-mahrams’ to enter the couple’s home?.

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

The marital home is a noble and honourable home, which Allaah has commanded both spouses to protect; the wife in particular is commanded to protect the trust of this home, because she is the lady of the house.

It was narrated from Jaabir that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said in the Farewell Khutbah:

Fear Allaah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a trust from Allaah, and intimacy with them has become permissible to you by the word of Allaah. Your rights over them are that they should not allow anyone whom you dislike to sit on your furniture. If they do that, then hit them, but in a manner that does not cause injury or leave a mark. Their rights over you are that you should provide for them and clothe them in a reasonable manner.” Narrated by Muslim (1218).

The issue of permission to enter the marital home may be summed up in the following points:

Firstly:

If the husband gives his wife clear permission to admit a specific person who is one of her mahrams or a woman, or if his permission is general, then it is permissible for the wife in that case to admit them to his house, according to scholarly consensus.

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Ruling On College/University (Bin Baaz & Uthaymeen)

Ruling On College/University

The Prophet (Sallallaahu aayhi wa sallam) said “The deen is naseehah (Sincere advice).“[Muslim, Abu Dawud & Nisa’e]

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen:

Question: Muslim women and their daughters in western countries where there are Muslim minorities face very difficult circumstances in that education and work are mixed environments. We are caught between two possibilities. Either we cut-off our provision, stay at home and beg and as a result sink to a very desperate material condition, or, alternatively, wear our Islaamic hijaab and study and work in those societies which do not differentiate between mixing and separation. What is your esteemed opinion concerning this matter?

Response: Concerning this very crucial issue, I believe that it is obligatory for a Muslim to patiently adhere to and persevere with Allaah’s religion and not to be of those whom Allaah describes, saying: {And of mankind are those that say, “We believe in Allaah.” But if they are made to suffer for the Sake of Allaah, they consider the persecution of mankind as Allaah’s punishment…}, [Soorah al-‘Ankaboot, Aayah 10].

A Muslim must be patient and if it is not possible to gain a livelihood except by what Allaah has forbidden, namely through the mixing of men and women, then this livelihood must be abandoned and another sought from another direction or from another country. Was Allaah’s land not vast enough for you to emigrate therein? This is also true with respect to seeking knowledge. How good it would be if the Muslim minorities could establish their own schools based on the religion of Islaam, where boys and girls are taught separately. If that could be achieved it would be a great blessing. It is not possible, however, for us to permit the mixing of the sexes because of the seriousness of the issue and the level of temptation contained therein.

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The Cause Of Bad Temper From The Husbands. What Is The Solution?

How To Get Your husband To Work For You!

It seems Ahmad could never do anything right. When ‘Aaishah asked him to fold the laundry, Ahmad was eager to help out. But rather than praise Ahmad’s contribution, ‘Aaishah criticized his methods: “Why must you bring the clean clothes all the way across the house and dump them on the couch?” she asked.

Ahmad turned on the television. “So I can watch something while I fold clothes,” he said.

‘Aaishah folded her arms and fumed. “I would have been done by now.”

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It started with the laundry, but it ended with Ahmad and ‘Aaishah’s breakup.

‘Aaishah had no idea that her statement, uttered in frustration after a long wait in line at the bank and a flat tire that day, could be so detrimental to their relationship.

Ahmad loved ‘Aaishah with all his heart, but when ‘Aaishah criticized his method of folding laundry, she inadvertently called him a failure.

After the laundry incident,Ahmad shied away from helping ‘Aaishah with the chores, which led her to the false conclusion that he was lazy.

She began to search for occasions to prove her theory true, complaining about underwear in the bathroom or an empty glass in the living room.

Finally, Ahmad was convinced that he would never be good enough for ‘Aaishah. Rather than suffer further blows to his self-esteem, he ended the relationship.

Every day women perform great feats of strength, juggling the roles of employee, wife, caretaker and lover.

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What Is The Dress Of The Woman In The Prayer? By Shaykh Al-Albaani

Umm Ayyoob quotes some of the narrations which Shaykh al-Albani brings about the permissibility for the woman to pray wearing her house dress (regular home clothing) and a Khimar (head covering) and then he brings the narration that she should wear an outer garment type of covering (e.g. like a Abayyah).

Then the Shaykh says:

‘Then all of this is understood to be, that it is more complete and better for her to wear an outer garment type of covering and Allaah knows best.’

[Mentioned in ‘Tamaam al-Mina Fee Taleeq ala Fiqh-us-Sunnah’ p.161-162]

Umm Ayoob says:‘So in summary: Shaykh Albani -Rahimullaah- holds the opinion that it is recommended for the woman to wear the Jilbaab (Abayyah) on top of her house dress and a head covering for the prayer.  His sources for this are the following:

1- His understanding of the authentic Athaar (narrations) which show that it is sufficient for the woman to wear a house dress and head covering for the prayer.

2- The Shaykh affirms the Athaar which show that the dress of the woman in prayer should be a house dress and head covering along with a Jilbaab or wrapping sheet worn for prayer, or a wrapping garment.

3- Combining between these Athaar which are all authentic, Shaykh Albani concludes that it is recommended for the woman in the prayer to wear a Jilbaab and that it is better and more complete.

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Men Are Thieves On Guard

By Umm Hanifa

My dear daughters in Islam,

Assalamu alaikum,

I wanted to write this article because it is important that you know the nature of men to both protect yourself and gain your husband’s love.

Allah knows best the nature of men and women and thus, He (swt) has instilled some rules to follow. Islam is a wonderful religion because it gives its right to every creature on Earth and of course to all men, women and children.

The children are the weakest of the three and Allah – with His infinite Mercy, has given them rights (and duties) but this is not the scope of this article.

Women are also weaker than men and this is not to mean that women are less important or less intelligent or less capable, it just means there are certain things that women are not as strong as men and one of such things is dealing with emotions or some aspects of our physical abilities.

Thus, women are a trust in men’s hands. Yet, Allah (swt) knows the nature of men and that there is a sexual weakness in the hearts of many of them that Allah (swt) has taught us how to protect ourselves from them!

When you go out, you always make sure that your house’s door is closed and so are the windows. This preventive measures are to avoid letting thieves in.

Many times you have heard ‘Do not invite thieves by leaving your window open’ of if you are going to park your car on the street ‘Do not encourage thieves by leaving your valuables insight in your car’ as this will most certainly attract thieves to your car, and the outcome of that is always not something you wish to deal with as it involves a loss in property and a loss in wealth and a shake to your emotions and nerves.

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The Husband’s Rights Over His Wife

The rights of the husband over his wife are among the greatest rights; indeed his rights over her are greater than her rights over him, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them.” [al-Baqarah 2:228]

al-Jassaas said: “Allaah tells us in this aayah that each of the spouses has rights over the other, and that the husband has one particular right over his wife which she does not have over him.

Ibn al-‘Arabi said: “This text states that he has some preference over her with regard to rights and duties of marriage.

These rights include:

(a) The Obligation Of Obedience

Allaah has made the man a qawwaam (protector and maintainer) of the woman by commanding, directing and taking care of her, just as guardians take care of their charges, by virtue of the physical and mental faculties that Allaah has given only to men and the financial obligations that He has enjoined upon them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [al-Nisaa’ 4:34]

‘Ali ibn Abi Talhah said, narrating from Ibn ‘Abbaas: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women” means, “they are in charge of them, i.e., she should obey him in matters of obedience that Allaah has enjoined upon her, and obey him by treating his family well and taking care of his wealth.” This was the view of Muqaatil, al-Saddi and al-Dahhaak.(Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/492)

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Two Husbands In The House

Two Husbands In The House

Many women -because of feminism – don’t obey their husbands – which is sinful.

Some practising sisters – they are not realising that they should obey their husbands. Allah’s Messenger said [meaning];

«لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ، لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا، مِنْ عِظَمِ حَقِّهِ عَلَيْهَا»

“If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon her.”
There are so many other ahadeeth on the rights of the husband from the wife.

A [non muslim] Noble Prize winner said;

The Economical and Social crisis within the western world is due to the both husbands not playing the role they should play.

Meaning: the husband should provide for the family, and the woman should help the husband in the home to raise the children and the household.

He said; the husband should play his major role, and the wife should play her major role in the house and provide for the children etc. Once each party plays their role, a complimentary relationship will form. The husband is the provider for the house, and the wife uses this provision to grow the fruits (i.e. children).

A Wife as a Companion

It is the nature of the man; when he comes back home from work, he is tired and frustrated – and he wants to see his wife looking at him, smiling and caring for him and giving him attention. If he comes home from work and sees his wife on the phone, or the internet, or her attention isn’t on him in a good way – he will feel frustrated. He will feel that his wife is not for him, and due to this – problems start. Even a small thing will become a major thing because he will be ready to argue due to his previous frustration.

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