A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
‘Urwah ibn az-Zubayr said: “I was acquainted with ‘A’ishah, and I have never seen anyone at all who was more knowledgeable of any verse that was revealed, any obligatory duty, any sunnah, anyone who was more well-versed in poetry or narrated more poetry; anyone who was more knowledgeable of Arabic history and lineage and so forth; or anyone who had more knowledge of judiciary matters or medicine than her.” [Siyar A’laam An-Nubula’, 2/193]
Ash-Sha’bi used to mention her and express his admiration for her understanding and knowledge, then he would say: ”No wonder, when she learned from the Prophet (saw)!“
‘Ata’ used to say: “ ‘Aa’ishah was the most knowledgeable of people and the most wise.” [Siyar A’laam An-Nubula’, 2/185]
Al-Ahnaaf Ibn Qays, the chief of Banu Tameem and one of the most eloquent of the Arabs, used to say: “I heard the speeches of Abu Bakr, ‘Umar, ‘Uthmaan, ‘Ali and the caliphs who came after them, and I never heard words from the mouth of any person that were more powerful and more beautiful than those of ‘A’ishah (ra).” Mu’aawiyah used to say something similar. [Siyar A’laam An-Nubula’, 2/183]
It is reported from Abû Mûsâ Al-Ash’arî – Allah be pleased with him – that he said:
We, the Companions of Allah’s Messenger – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – never had difficulty in understanding a hadîth except that when we asked ‘Â`ishah we found she had some knowledge about it.
It is reported from Masrûq – Allah have mercy on him – that he said:
We swear by Allah, we have seen senior Companions of Allah’s Messenger – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him – asking ‘Â`ishah about inheritance laws.
Oh wives of the Daa’ies (those who work day and night calling to Islaam) and Mujaahideen, fear Allaah and be firm and patient. Verily you are the cause of the success of your husband’s struggle and the cause of its decline.
There is a saying that behind every great man is a great woman. Many people differ about this parable, between those in support of it and those who appose it.
We all must agree about the importance of the wife in the life of her husband and the fact she has a role that if fulfilled, the boat of da’wah will sail peacefully and successfully. For this reason we find the Messenger Muhammad (saw) emphasised on the importance of the woman in more than just one place.
He encouraged the Muslim man about the necessity to look for a wife with good Deen (practicing woman), who fears Allaah in her relationship with her husband, at his home and with his children.
We believe nobody will differ with us if we say that the Daa’ies are so needy for a unique, sophisticated, special, and magnificent wife unlike any other, who will stand by him through hardship and ease, supporting him, staying at his home helping him to fulfil his roles and responsibilities, encouraging him to carry da’wah more and more and to fulfil his mission.