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Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn, Guarded In Pavilions, Away From The Eyes Of Other Men

Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn are described as being guarded in pavilions, away from the eyes of men.

Allaah says:

Hoor (beautiful, fair females) guarded in pavilions.” [55:72]

According to Mujaahid, what this means is that the Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn will not go out of their pavilions. He goes on to say that they will not be like the women of this world who roam about the streets and market places. They (Al-Hor Al-’Ayn) will honorably stay with their husbands. (1)

Though they are primarily restrained in the pavilions, they will, however, accompany their husbands to the gardens and parks for amusement.(2)

A Quick Note To Sisters:

Some sisters complain that their husbands daydream about Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn, yet fail to question and/or investigate why. Allaah has mentioned many qualities of Al-Hoor Al-’Ayn which just blow a mans mind away.

For example, they restrain their glances, they passionately love their husbands, they care for them, and as mentioned by Mujaahid (above), they don’t go out, honorably staying at home, without any fuss. Restraining their eyesightes from seeing other men, as well as keeping far away from being seen by other men.

Not knowing any other man, not even seeing other men! Loving their husbands, and loving their husbands only. Living with them in peace, love and compassion, fulfilling his needs, showing no disappointment at his wishes. Allaahu Akbar!

Footnotes:

(1) Jaami’ Al-Bayaan, 13/27/160.

(2) Hadi Al-Arwah, p. 263

Recipe For A Successful Marriage

Our Lord! Grant that our spouses and our offspring be a comfort to our eyes, and give us the grace to lead those who are conscious of You.” (Furqaan 74).

QUESTION:

Every human being by nature has an instinct to dispute. This instinct becomes more manifest between the husband and wife, thus leading to marital disputes. How can this instinct be controlled?

ANSWER:

Consider the following ten points to control the instinct of dispute and maintain a happy marriage.

1. Fear Allah: It was the noble practice of The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) to conscientise the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa v14, Ahzab v69, Aali-Imraan v101) from the Quraan. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah.

2. Never be angry at the same time: Anger is the root cause for all marital disputes. One Sahaabi came to Rasulullah (SAW) and sought some advice. Rasulullah (SAW) replied, “Control your anger“. The same advice was rendered three times.

3. If one has to win an argument, let it be the other: Nabi (SAW) said: “I guarantee a house in the outskirts of jannah for whoever gives up arguing even though he was in the right.” (Tirmidhi)

4. Never shout at each other unless the house is on fire: Luqman (AS) while offering advice to his son said: “…and lower your voice for verily the most disliked voice is that of a donkey.” (Surah Luqman v19)

5. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly: Rasulullah (SAW) said, “A Mu’min is a mirror for a Mu’min.” (Abu Dawud vol.2 pg.325) Advise with dignity and silently.

6. Never bring up mistakes of the past: Nabi (SAW) said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.

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