Do you know that you have the power to change the mood that your husband is in just by using what Allah has given you? The problem is that as women, we are often too proud, or stubborn to give in. But this is to our own detriment.
If your husband comes home tired and cranky, greet him with a loving smile. Bring the best out in yourself and in your appearance, wearing what pleases his eyes, and applying perfume, have your house looking clean and smelling nice.
Make your home a haven for your husband. Serve him his favourite food and drink.
Make physical contact with him (unfortunately many women forget this power Allaah has given them), just by that soft touch and sweet look, you can cause all his worries and stress to fall out of his mind.
This is sure to make him relax and let go of all the stress of the day.
Even though he may not know how to show his appreciation, know that you have eased him of his burdens and helped him to feel loved and honored.
This will free up his mind and ease his heart so that he can be more present with you and your children.
He will have a deep sense of contentment and insha’Allah he will implement the advice given above. And remember the reward: The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wasalaam) said:
‘If you (women) observe the salat, fast the month of Ramadhan, pay zakaat, obey your husbands and guard your chastity, you will be asked to enter Jannah through any gate.’
Isn’t this what we are ultimately working for? Your marriage and your husband is your key to Jannah. Remember this at all times insha’Allah.
The importance of pleasing your husband could be your ticket to jannah. The Prophet (saw) said to the female companion who came ot the prophet for some need of hers:
“Be careful how you are with him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.” [Ahmad, Nasaa’ee & others, saheeh]
It is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to try and make the home the place of much joy, comfort and tranquility. By implementing the above advice, you may start towards having a successful marriage insha’Allah.